"Angel is a 2022 graduate of the High Conflict Divorce Consultant Certification Program. This eight-week, intensive course focuses on the difficult dynamics of high-conflict divorce and child custody battles. Our program focuses on the intricacies of post separation abuse and our consultants are trained that it only takes one toxic, abusive or personality disordered individual to create a high-conflict situation. Angel will be an amazing resource and advocate for those attempting to navigate the family court system. It was an honor to have Angel in our program and I look forward to cheering her on in her advocacy work."

- Tina Swithin, CEO/Founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program

One does not typically arrive at divorce without a few cracks in the soul and many who reach that point are broken, sometimes in many ways. It is not the mental or emotional state one would choose to move through a life-changing transition. After all, divorce is a time in which everything one values is up for negotiation – and the consequences of these high stakes decisions are lifelong. Clarity, reason, logic, calm, and courage are required during this transition. If you are married to a cluster B personality, though, you are likely much more than cracked or broken – you are likely shattered - your self-confidence, self-worth, self-efficacy eroded…your clarity a haze, your reason a jumble, your calm unremembered, your courage hidden deep within you. All of these states of being have been learned as you coped with perpetual abuse designed to siphon your empathy and love to feed a black hole. Marriage to a Bluster B is a morass. Escape requires an informed team and our own willingness to ask for help. 

When we are exhausted from fighting for our own sanity, it can feel impossible to muster the strength and uncover the courage to take on this transition. It is even more exhausting to consider the crazy we know it will generate in the Cluster B. That is why we need help. We need someone outside of the situation to validate what we are feeling. We need someone outside of the situation to help us see viable options. We need help. 

Angel is kind and sensitive. She approaches interactions with compassion and an understanding that those of us coming to her are fragile. I always felt better after hearing from her.

Angel is clever and knowledgeable. She knows the labyrinth of the legal system and the tactics taken by cluster Bs. Her insights enabled me to prepare and predict so I was nearly always in the offense, not defense. 

Angel is generous and resourceful. She spent the time needed to be sure I was supported and prepared. She also shared materials and experiences so I could learn how others were able to succeed.

I worked with an established attorney, but the attorney mostly filed paperwork and set deadlines. I asked my attorney for guidance on numerous issues, and I did not find their counsel helpful. Rather, it seems the attorneys are most comfortable promoting “standard agreements” rather than working for a more suitable agreement for individual situations. Having come out of over a decade of being ignored, degraded, and dismissed, working with an attorney felt like another abusive relationship at times. The best counsel, advice, guidance, and support I received was from Angel. She gave me the courage to go forward. She made me stronger. She inspired me. She gave me hope.

My divorce was finalized 8 months after filing. I was able to reach a final agreement through mediation so decisions about my child and finances were not made by a stranger, a judge. I went into mediation incredibly prepared, due to Angel’s guidance. I won every point that was non-negotiable for me (safety and stability of my child, complete decision-making power for my child, boundaries to keep us both safe). I felt empowered to ask for those things because of Angel, not my attorney. I was prepared to justify my priorities before the mediator because of Angel, not my attorney. 

Angel’s coaching services were the most valuable investment I made through the divorce process. I benefitted materially, emotionally, and mentally. My child and I are both now safe and healing. You deserve the same and Angel can help. 

— D, Ph.D. 4/9/24

I had gone through mediation and divorce with my ex husband: a gaslighting narcissist who cared not how much conflict or impediment was given to the situation as long as I was given the most pain. He really didn't even care that he came out ahead, as long as I was broken in the process; "Scorched earth" is what he called his process. And in the middle of it all, I asked my sister why it seemed that my lawyer had not picked up that a different strategy was needed with him -- Instinctively I understood an act of good faith on my part would only goad him to ask for still more.

After being divorced a year, I was in another high conflict season with the ex. This level of high conflict had marked my marriage and only increased with separation and divorce. Later I would understand that I was actually constantly in a state of post-separation abuse. You see, most people can leave a relationship and find a modicum of healing by the separation. But when the ex is a narcissist who delights in gaslighting, knowing what is up from down is a continuous game of finding one's equilibrium. Meanwhile, your lawyer can tell you when to file a motion or when something in the decree is "due". But the more desperately needed help in brainstorming a strategy on how to deal with the ex, how to better protect yourself/kids and possibly move forward one day, well it is not something any lawyer could ever give.

And that is where Angel steps in. My sister and I were bemoaning the stark lack of assistance of my attorney in these areas...more-so, I had been working on a strategy to ensure that I couldn't be as unprotected as I was when I first left. I didn't know how it was possible but we both sat there saying "You would think there would be a consultant for this type of thing. I mean, I haven't ever heard of one but surely..." And a split light of an idea found me googling "divorce consultant, narcissist, high conflict." Immediately, Angel's website popped up and I sent an email - Meanwhile, I searched her sight and for the first time in 36 months I felt like someone was describing the isolated life of abuse I found myself in - just being "seen" or "understood" as her articles conveyed she would, found me weeping with hope. And from the first call until today, I still find my hand secretly pinching my leg when I have a conversation with Angel - She understands thoroughly (and in a manner only one who has been there can have) the depths of pain from one you no longer love but holds some power you cannot deny because your greatest love is also their child...she gets the emotional jags that come from no where and have previously been uncharacteristic of yourself, but you find hitting you dramatically. And she understands how to help you find your own voice again by the simple act of facing the fear and protecting yourself in documentation. I cannot imagine a better thought partner, cheerleader, sage, truth-teller, or engine of energy in this journey along a narrow road. And while I long for a day where I don't have a long laundry list of things to address with the loquacious narcissist ex, I also am saddened by the thought of my graduating from needing Angel's wisdom, direction and care. Even more, because of Angel, I actually think that day might come one day - I am still shocked that I think I could be free from the horrific chronic conflict one day. But utilizing Angel's direction, I automatically and instantly saw more reprieve between rants. And saw my standing grow in a way that now only highlights the dark, twisted mental games the ex still tries to play. So for Angel, I thank God - in many ways she has given me back my life...and where there is still a lack, there is now a growing hope. Knowing this sounds ridiculously cheesy hut believing it with all my heart: It is apropos her name is Angel!

— AB

“Angel is a light in the darkness. She serves with empathy, compassion, deep understanding and care for her clients. Her knowledge of high conflict cases surpasses most everyday family lawyer, but what I love most is her commitment and service to those she serves. As a survivor of abuse, you feel vulnerable, scared and can be easily re-traumatized again and again in the legal process. Angel walks with you, each step of the way never judging and always helping you to carry your head high as you fight for justice and truth. I cannot recommend her enough. In the darkest and most difficult moments of my life, Angel has been a light and a reminder that people do care.”

— ES

“Angel has been a sanity and life saver! A high-conflict divorce, particularly one where abuse is involved, can feel completely overwhelming. With Angel’s help, I now have the strength and skills to push for the best future for my children, and myself. She is extremely knowledgable, very easy to connect with, and can help identify areas where you need more support. Working with Angel has been like taking the blinders off - she is not only kind, caring, and supportive, but also incredibly smart and honest. I am so relieved to have Angel in my corner.”

- LQ

“I have been fighting to protect my daughter from her father since she was in the womb. My first court date was during my second trimester . . . [Angel] has helped me with everything from refining communication skills when corresponding with a master gas-lighter and documenting post-separation abuse to encouraging me to practice self-care. At every turn, she assures me that I am both seen and heard, valued and respected. In the family courts, it is easy to feel that we must grin and bear it while the system which supposedly protects our children perpetuates abuse towards not only us, but also our kids. Angel reminds me that my pain has purpose, that I am fighting to advocate for my child, and that this too shall pass. I feel blessed to have Angel in the trenches with me; in an otherwise agonizing war of attrition, she is a bright spot in the darkness.”

- KR

“Angel has been my divorce coach for a little less than a year. She has been a trusted and a strategic partner through a roller coaster high-conflict divorce. She was able to create a safe space for my concerns, provide feedback good or bad, and helped me stay action oriented. She has played a crucial role in helping me prepare for mediation and helped me strategize and debrief afterwards. Additionally, Angel was able to provide me with options concerning a network of professionals that truly put the children first. Occasionally”, she may accompany her clients to meetings with attorneys, hearings, mediations to make sure her client stays grounded and on track to get what they need from these interactions with family court professionals. Family court can be intimidating and isolating when going through a high-conflict divorce process. Angel is the right person to have by your side while going through it. I wish I had met her in the very beginning of my divorce process – I would have been in a much better place with my divorce strategically, financially, emotionally, and mentally.”

- A