It always starts the same.  I was in my early thirties, happy, successful and living a peaceful life. 

My career was flourishing as my HR, marketing and recruiting division within the hospital was growing. My days consisted of plenty of coffee, arriving early and leaving late. My extra time was spent with friends and family, my dog, Owen, and fitting a run in every now and then.  I was dating, but I considered that part of my life a bonus and not a necessity. 

Life was good, peaceful, and I was happy.

At that time I had no idea what a high-conflict or narcissistic personality was, or that it even existed. In family court, it only takes one difficult personality to earn this label.  Boy, I wish I knew then what I know now.

One glance, flattery, a long night of conversation, handsome, funny, charismatic as well as successful and it began.  But the red flags were always there.

Fast forward, 15 years of marriage and two precious daughters later, the marriage was over. The night I finally put my foot down and asked him to leave is the night that I slept more soundly than I had for the last ten years. 

I was anxious but at least it was peaceful and the three of us were safe for the foreseeable future, or so I thought.

When I entered family court, I thought that justice would automatically be served and I thought that you were innocent until proven guilty.  I thought that the focus would remain on the children and decisions would always be made with their best interest in the forefront.

I thought that these decisions were research-led, trauma-informed, given without bias and with urgency to protect children from abuse while ensuring accountability and enforcement of their human rights.  

Growing up I was taught that you enter into the court arena in order to seek fairness. I was under the assumption that family court would protect the rights of mothers and their children when they found the courage to leave. I believed that they would protect their rights to safety and economic stability. Nothing could be further from the truth. 

Family court is a $50 billion dollar industry.  Keeping a family in crisis and not providing them with the protections and rights they deserve guarantees they remain in a perpetual downward cycle. And they all make money doing it.  The public can’t protest what they are not aware of and the public has not known about this because family court has been a secret business.  There is no oversight. There are no checks and balances. No one is watching them. Family court is policing itself.

I honestly had no idea that I was about to enter a broken system that focused more on parental rights instead of the well-being of the children.  I was not aware that court professionals are not trauma-informed and have very little knowledge pertaining to post-separation abuse.

I learned that coercive control is not recognized as a form of domestic violence and that the impact of this on the protective parent and its impact on the children are not accurately correlated and not met with appropriate safety measures. 

I had no idea what false claims of Parental Alienation consisted of much less how to combat them. I didn’t know that Parental Alienation is not recognized by any credible organization despite decades of attempts, yet it is the most damaging accusation that can be made against protective parents.

If abuse of any type is claimed by the protective parent and/or the children, custody is twice as likely to be given to the abuser.

Post separation abuse, physiological, financial and Domestic Violence by proxy, along with the corruption of the family court system and the unwavering desire to protect my two daughters is what caused us to remain in the family court system for seven years. The abuse that we experienced during marriage was facilitated and allowed to continue by this broken system.

Early during my own “high-conflict” divorce and custody battle, I felt a strong calling and desire to be an advocate for change in the family court system. I wanted to learn all that I could so that I could not only navigate my own litigation but also help others while advocating for changing laws, education and awareness within an outdated system that manifests its decisions based on outdated practices.

I completed the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program founded by Tina Swithin and immediately began my consulting practice in order to achieve these goals.

Certified in all fifty states, ABA, and National Safe Parents Coalition member , my focus is child custody issues, court preparation, combating false parental alienation claims, documentation, team building, mediation and negotiations, co-parenting with a high-conflict personality, communication and child custody evaluations.

In addition to helping my clients work through their own high conflict divorce challenges whether post-, during or pre-, my goal is to develop a strategy within a self-care mindset that limits the collateral damage, time and wasted finances that result in a battle such as this.

My goal is to walk alongside my clients, and be the person that I wish was there for me while going through this experience. This journey is exhausting, isolating and mentally challenging.

You are not alone! Our story is our truth and we have walked similar paths that have connected us and our experiences. Together we can navigate this difficult time and build a foundation that will assist in getting your life back.

This journey demands a village.  I have learned to navigate this faulty system while also building relationships with top-rated law professionals and others that can be trusted to help navigate you through this ever changing experience.  Family court is different  for everyone. Together we can strategize , focus and tackle the most meaningful issues first, while developing a “chip away” method for the rest.  Family court is a long-end game. It takes stamina, strategy, awareness, self- care and an experienced team  in order to prevail. 

I have succeeded in protecting my children and rebuilding. My goal is to get you there also!

Currently, I reside in Houston with my two daughters, my husband, my dog and my very large cat. We are living a busy, but peaceful, purpose-filled life.

Protection is different than alienation!

My role.

My role as a divorce consultant, means that I can walk alongside my clients in the following capacities, to save them a great deal of time, emotional energy, and money.

I assist in planning exit strategies which are different in every situation. I provide information concerning documents that should be gathered before leaving. Each case is different if there are questions that need to be confirmed or answered by a legal professional. I connect my clients with with someone that is properly vetted. Knowledge is power!

Who is hired is important! Attorneys are one of the most important assets. I provide the necessary questions that need to be asked when interviewing legal counsel. Most are not properly trained or aware of how to navigate high conflict personalities, situations that involve abuse or NPD.

I assist in creating divorce teams from the best and trusted lawyers, therapist, forensic accountants and realtors.

I teach effective communication through correspondence that involves little emotion and appropriate responses, but with subtle pleasantries in order to avoid false allegations that would cost additional time and money.

When requested by clients or counsel, I am present at mediations and court appearances. Attorneys have many cases. I am tuned in to the exact details of each client’s situation. Simply, more awareness and more detail help with a better outcome.

Documentation is critical to each case ongoing. I teach my clients how to document in a manner that is useful, impactful and easily accessible to attorneys, therapist and anyone that documentation would be needed for.

Strategy is important when dealing with NPD and or a high conflict divorce. I assist In anticipating and mitigating abuse tactics that will rise along the way while providing resources that assist with education concerning these personality types especially in the court arena. They are very predictable! It is possible to stay one step ahead. One step ahead saves you time, money and emotional stress.

I help minimize the emotional toll a divorce like this takes by creating a manageable “to do” timeline concerning court documents, discovery and budgets.

I work in all arenas of divorce globally. I specialize in high conflict and cases that involve false allegations of parental alienation.